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1. BEBERAPA REKENING
Lihat apakah kekasih Anda punya rekning bank lebih dari satu. Ini bisa jadi indikasi dia berbakat kaya. Karena, biasanya orang yang punya rekening tabungan dua atau lebih cenderung berusaha mengatur uangnya dengan benar. Lelaki tipe ini memisahkan pos-pos pnghasilannya. Misal, satu rekening digunakan hanya untuk menerima transfer gaji dan belanja, rekening lainnya untuk tabungan.

2. SUKA MENOLONG
Tidak tepat jika orang yang suka menimbun harta, pelit, serta enggan berbagi dan memberi adalah orang yang berbakat kaya. Justru lelaki yang mudah tergerak hatinya dan gampang menolong oranglah yang pantas Anda lirik. Dia adalah tipe orang yang akan relatif mudah hidupnya. Entah bagaimana caranya, Anda berdua akan sangat jarang kesulitan uang. Dan yang terpenting, kenikmatan memberi itu memang tak ada penggantinya.

3. PUNYA CITA-CITA
Jangan harap Si Dia berbakat kaya jika hidupnya dialirkan bagai sungai, entah hendak bermuara di mana. Lelaki yang berbakat kaya selalu punya rencana besar dalam hidupnya. Ada sesuatu di masa depan yang hendak diraihnya. Untuk itu, dia akan punya rencana jangka pendek dan menengah untuk mencapai cita-citanya. Dalam bercita-cita, dia tidak takkut ada mmpi yang tampaknya mustahil.

4. TAK BERHOBI SPESIFIK
Lelaki yang punya hobi spesifik cenderung menghabiskan uangnya untuk hobinya. Ini juga berlaku untuk lelaki yang hobi berbelanja. Tentu saja ada orang yang punya hobi spesifik punya urat kaya. Namun, toh tidak semua orang punya nasib bisa kaya begitu saja. Lelaki yang tidak punya hobi spesifik biasanya akan mengeluarkan uangnya untuk berbelanja berdasarkan mood. Dia cenderung merasa tidak punya kebutuhan spesifik, sehingga enggan membeli seusatu.

5. BUTA HARGA
Dia tidak tahu persis apa bedanya barang mahal atau murah. Buatnya, kemeja ya kemeja. Bentuknya seperti itu, ada ukurannya yang pas dan pantas dipakai ke kantor. Lelaki seperti ini tidak akan bermasalah dengan kemeja murahnya.

6. HIDUNG BISNIS
Apakah Anda pernah mendengar dia mengatakan (kurang lebih), “Ini bisa jadi peluang bisnis. Bisa dicoba.” Artinya, dia dapat melihat sesuatu, sekecil apa pun, sebagai sebuah peluang bisnis. Tiak banyak orang yang punya kemampuan seperti ini. Jadi, kalau dia kerap melontarkan komentar yang berhubungan dengan peluang bisnis, bisa jadi ia memang berbakat kaya.

7. PEKERJA KERAS
Punya hidung bisnis saja tidak cukup tanpa kerja keras. Ini yang membedakan seorang pemimpi kelas berat dengan pengejar mimpi. Seorang pengejar mimpi akan berusaha sekuatnya untuk mewujudkan cita-citanya. Tentunya itu dengan kerja keras.

8. KEAHLIAN KHUSUS
Perhatikan deh, apakah Si Dia punya satu atau dua keahlian khsuus. Misalnya, dia menguasai komputer dengan baik, pandai melobi, atau apa pun. Kemampuan khusus ini bisa jadi modal dia dalam menjalani hidupnya. Lelaki tipe ini cenderung survive dalam hidupnya.

9. BANYAK TEMAN
Temannya ada di mana-mana. Tidak hanya mantan teman-teman SMA, kuliah atau kantornya. Tapi juga dari komunitas lain, yang mungkin Anda tidak pernah duga sebelumnya. Orang yang banyak teman bisa diartikan punya networking yang cukup luas. Sehingga, ditaruh di mana pun dia akan bisa hidup (dengan baik).

10. MEMELIHARA PERTEMANAN
Kadang Anda jengkel karena dia rajin menelepon atau SMS yang tidak penting ke teman-temannya. Just say hello saja bisa berkepanjangan. Mestinya, Anda tidak perlu kesal, karena ini adalah caranya untuk memelihara pertemanan. Orang boleh punya banyak teman, tapi jika dia tidak bisa memeliharanya, maka sia-sia saja.

11. MUDAH BERTEMAN
Hanya orang yang menyenangkan yang mudah berteman. Pergi ke tempat baru mana pun, dia bisa dengan mudah punya teman ngobrol. Ini menandakan dia orang yang terbuka, punya sense of humor dan berwawasan cukup luas. Orang-orang seperti ini biasanya tidak sulit beradaptasi dengan lingkungan baru, termasuk jenis pekerjaan baru. Sehingga, dia tidak perlu khawatir tidak punya pekerjaan yang baik.

12. PERCAYA DIRI
Dia tahu persis apa kelebihan dan kekurangannya, dan percaya orang lain pun begitu. Sehingga, dia tidak gentar ketika berinteraksi dengan orang lain, atau diharuskan melakukan sesuatu yang baru. Termasuk dia percaya bahwa dia bisa hidup layak hari ini atau esok lusa, bersama Anda.

13. FOKUS
Dalam melakukan apa pun, dia fokus. Perhatiannya tidak mudah terceraikan oleh hal lain. Orang yang fokus biasanya punya tanggung jawab yang baik. Ini berhubungan dengan bagaimana dia berusaha mencapai cita-citanya, menyelesaikan pekerjaannya, dan serius membangun hidup bersama Anda.

14. OPTIMIS
Hampir tidak pernah Anda mendengar, “Ah, susah”, Enggak bisa”, “Mustahil aku bisa melakukannya”, “Malas ah”, dan yang sejenisnya. Lelaki pesimis akan sulit survive dalam hidupnya. Keoptimisan bisa membuat seseorang mampu melakukan sesuatu yang secara hitungan di atas kertas sulit.

15. SEHAT
Lelaki penyakitan akan lebih banyak menghabiskan waktunya dengan tidak melakukan apa-apa.. Belum lagi ongkos dokter dan rumah sakit yang makin tidak masuk akal mahalnya. Uang Anda berdua bakal habis di sini. Selain itu, orang yang sehat akan bisa berpikir dengan lebih sehat.

Jangan pernah terjebak pada penampilan luar dan mulutnya yang bilang, “Hidupmu terjamin sampai kapan pun, Sayang.” Karena, yang terpenting Anda merasa nyaman hidup dengannya, dia bisa membuat hidup Anda berarti, dan Anda bisa tertawa bersamanya.

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masihkah kita mengeluh?

Good article to reflect yourself. Have a blessed day!

Sebuah kata sederhana yang mungkin jarang kita gunakan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari, tetapi seringkali kita praktekkan langsung baik secara sadar maupun tidak sadar. Beberapa waktu lalu saya berkumpul dengan teman-teman lama saya.
Seperti biasanya kami membicarakan mengenai pekerjaan, pasangan hidup, masa lalu, dan berbagai macam hal lainnya.

Setelah pulang saya baru tersadar, bahwa kami satu sama lain saling berlomba untuk memamerkan keluhan kami masing-masing seolah-olah siapa yang paling banyak mengeluh dialah yang paling hebat.

'Bos gue kelewatan masa udah jam 6 gue masih disuruh lembur, sekalian aja suruh gue nginep di
kantor!'

'Kerjaan gue ditambahin melulu tiap hari, padahal itu kan bukan 'job-des' gue'

'Anak buah gue memang bego, disuruh apa-apa salah melulu'.

Kita semua melakukan hal tersebut setiap saat tanpa menyadarinya.

Tahukah Anda semakin sering kita mengeluh, maka semakin sering pula kita mengalami hal tersebut. Sebagai contohnya, salah satu teman baik saya selalu mengeluh mengenai pekerjaan dia. Sudah beberapa kali dia pindah kerja dan setiap kali dia bekerja di tempat yang baru, dia selalu mengeluhkan mengenai atasan atau rekan-rekan sekerjanya.

Sebelum dia pindah ke pekerjaan berikutnya dia selalu ribut dengan atasan atau rekan sekerjanya. Seperti yang bisa kita lihat bahwa terbentuk suatu pola tertentu yang sudah dapat diprediksi, dia akan selalu pindah dari satu pekerjaan ke pekerjaan berikutnya sampai dia belajar untuk tidak mengeluh.

Mengeluh adalah hal yang sangat mudah dilakukan dan bagi beberapa orang hal ini menjadi suatu kebiasaan dan parahnya lagi mengeluh menjadi suatu kebanggaan. Bila Anda memiliki dua orang teman, yang pertama selalu berpikiran positif dan yang kedua selalu mengeluh, Anda akan lebih senang berhubungan dengan yang mana? Menjadi seorang yang pengeluh mungkin bisa mendapatkan simpati dari teman kita, tetapi tidak akan membuat kita memiliki lebih banyak teman dan tidak akan menyelesaikan masalah kita, bahkan bisa membuat kita kehilangan
teman-teman kita.

Yang menjadi pertanyaan adalah mengapa kita mengeluh? Kita mengeluh karena kita kecewa bahwa realitas yang terjadi tidak sesuai dengan harapan kita. Bagaimana kita mengatasi hal ini. Caranya sebenarnya gampang-gampang susah, kita hanya perlu bersyukur.

Saya percaya bahwa di balik semua hal yang kita keluhkan PASTI ADA hal yang dapat kita syukuri.

Sebagai ilustrasi, Anda mengeluh dengan pekerjaan Anda. Tahukah Anda berapa banyak jumlah pengangguran yang ada di Indonesia ?

Sekarang ini hampir 60% orang pada usia kerja produktif tidak bekerja, jadi bersyukurlah Anda masih memiliki pekerjaan dan penghasilan. Atau Anda mengeluh karena disuruh lembur atau disuruh melakukan kerja ekstra. Tahukah Anda bahwa sebenarnya atasan Anda percaya kepada kemampuan Anda? Kalau Anda tidak mampu tidak mungkin atasan Anda menyuruh Anda lembur atau memberikan pekerjaan tambahan.

Bersyukurlah karena Anda telah diberikan kepercayaan oleh atasan Anda, mungkin dengan Anda lebih rajin siapa tahu Anda bisa mendapatkan promosi lebih cepat dari yang Anda harapkan.

Bersyukurlah lebih banyak dan percayalah hidup Anda akan lebih mudah dan keberuntungan senantiasa selalu bersama Anda, karena Anda dapat melihat hal-hal yang selama ini mungkin luput dari pandangan Anda karena Anda terlalu sibuk mengeluh.

Try it now:

1. Bersyukurlah setiap hari setidaknya satu kali sehari.

Bersyukurlah atas pekerjaan Anda, kesehatan Anda, keluarga Anda atau apapun yang dapat Anda syukuri. Ambilah waktu selama 10-30 detik saja untuk bersyukur kemudian lanjutkan kembali kegiatan Anda.

2. Jangan mengeluh bila Anda menghadapi kesulitan tetapi lakukanlah hal berikut ini. Tutuplah mata Anda, tarik nafas panjang, tahan sebentar dan kemudian hembuskan pelan-pelan dari mulut Anda, buka mata Anda, tersenyumlah dan pikirkanlah bahwa suatu saat nanti Anda akan bersyukur atas semua yang terjadi pada saat ini.

3. Biasakan diri untuk tidak ikut-ikutan mengeluh bila Anda sedang bersama teman-teman yang sedang mengeluh dan beri tanggapan yang positif atau tidak sama sekali. Selalu berpikir positif dan lihatlah perubahan dalam hidup Anda.

'Semakin banyak Anda bersyukur kepada Tuhan atas apa yang Anda miliki, maka semakin banyak hal yang akan Anda miliki untuk disyukuri.'

P.S.: Saya bersyukur karena Anda telah membaca email ini dan saya akan lebih bersyukur lagi jika Anda mengirimkan email ini ke rekan-rekan Anda sehingga Anda juga dapat bersyukur karena telah membuat orang lain bersyukurrealize.

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Do Not Fuck Another Girl Until You See This...

Dear Friend,

Do you:

• Worry that you are lousy in bed? That her ex was better than you?
  
  
• Have a tough time getting or staying hard? Or want to last longer?
  
  
• Not get as much sex as you want from your girl?

Well, if you're like I used to be, you answered yes to all three. And for a long time I thought, why does it matter? I mean, I was still enjoying the sex...

But then I learned three very important things:

• When you give your woman orgasms, she becomes SEXUALLY ADDICTED to you
  

• If you AREN'T giving her orgasms there is a good chance she will leave you
  
  
• Your woman WILL NEVER TELL YOU if you are bad in bed

So with that in mind, if you are ready to experience the next level, where girls are literally sexually addicted to you, make sure you avoid these 10 common mistakes!

Mistake 1. Thinking She is Climaxing When She Isn't

You may think that your lover is having multiple orgasms (or even AN orgasm) when she is not. She may make a bunch of noises, get really wet, and even TELL YOU she is cumming. But is she really?

Grab a Cosmopolitan sometime and look at how many articles and comments there are on faking orgasms. I'm not saying that YOUR GIRL is faking orgasms EVERY TIME but... chances are there have been a few episodes of love making where she was CRAVING something other than what you were doing.

When this happens women just want it to be over and encourage you to cum. It doesn't mean you are awful in bed; just that being a mindblowing lover EVERY TIME takes some specialized knowledge.

If you are giving your girl orgasms (and absolutely 100% sure of it) then congratulations! You're one of the few guys who is ACTUALLY pleasing a woman REALLY WELL. But if you're not, it is crucial that you learn how...

Mistake #2) Not Giving Her a Variety of Sexual Experiences

A lot of guys who are new to sex - or are used to having sex with the same woman - tend to forget that women want different KINDS of sexual experiences.

You might think that changing positions a few times and varying the speed of your thrusting is a different type of sex. But it is not.

Women thrive on emotions. Sometimes they want to be taken, sometimes they want it hard, and sometimes they want to make love.

If you are NOT talking during sex and creating a strong emotional experience for her she CAN'T be totally fulfilled. Women want strong emotional experiences in bed.

Let's look at an example.

Women love bad boys because of the emotions that a bad boy inspires in them. It is why when women cheat it is often with a "bad boy." However, you don't need to BE a bad boy to create bad boy emotions within her in the bedroom. Instead just create these same emotions by spanking her, talking dirty, and giving it to her good!

Women also love very suave, romantic types. Think of the cheesy tv shows, movies, and paperback romance novels they read with that long-haired douchebag on a horse (aka Fabio) on the cover.

Now, I'm not saying you should grow long hair, huge man boobs, and start riding a horse... but what you can do is mix up your lovemaking with some romantic sessions in which you are telling your girl how beautiful she is to you and how much you love her.

Get it?

The skinny is this:

You NEED to give your lover a variety of sexual experiences... and you can give them all to her YOURSELF... but you have to mix it up!

Mistake #3) Forgetting To Be A MAN

Ask 100 women off of the street and 99 of them will tell you that they want a man that TAKES CONTROL.

She wants YOU to call the shots!

Yes you read that right. Your girl DOES want you to take control in the bedroom, to flip her around and do her doggystyle without asking, and to do what YOU want!

Women are programmed to respond to strong, authoritative, confident men. It signifies that you are a protector, a leader, and a suitable mate.

Sure, it's ok to ask her if she is enjoying something... but this is mostly reserved to specific technique when you are "going down". Save the talk about actual positions she liked for AFTER you are done.

Now don't get me wrong - you are not making her a slave here but rather leading with authority and masculine strength. Once you start doing this you will be able to do many things with her in the bedroom that she earlier would not do. Many guys often think she is just uptight and her not being sexual if she doesn't want to do something... when in reality she just needs you to be a man and guide her with your strength. You'll be amazed at just how powerfully she responds!

Mistake #4) Thinking Sex Isn't That Important To Her

If you want to know how much women LOVE sex... just think about how loudly they scream in the bedroom when they are getting it good! You won't ever hear a guy screaming like that!

You might THINK that your sex drive is much higher than your girls because YOU are usually the one initiating sex with her. But...

As hard as it is to swallow, recognize that if your girl doesn't want to have sex it is NOT because she doesn't want to. Unfortunately, it's probably because you just aren't getting her off.

Fortunately this is an easy fix, and in a moment we'll talk about how to do it...

Mistake #5) Being Silent/Emotionless in Bed

You may think that it is "cheesy" or "creepy" to talk romantically or dirty in bed. You may think its weird to talk at all in bed. However, women HATE silent, mechanical sex. Why?

Let's hit this again my friend: Women THRIVE on emotion.

Dirty talk or romantic talk are EXCELLENT at giving your girl STRONG EMOTIONS in bed.

And strong emotions = STRONG ORGASMS.

Never think that it is solely your physical parts or motions you are making that get your girl off. The most POWERFUL FEMALE ORGASMS are triggered by her mind, not by her physical body. Unlock her mind through dirty talk, romantic talk, and emotional talk WHILE having sex and your girl will experience the strongest orgasms of her life.

Mistake #6) Trading Dinners/Flowers/etc To Get Sex From Her

Many men mistakenly think that women aren't interested in sex (we already discussed how this is incorrect thinking) and that they have to "trade something" with their girl for sex. This is why you see so many guys trying to have sex with their girl by first taking her out to a nice dinner or buying her gifts. While doing nice things for your girl is awesome, it should NEVER be with the intention of GETTING SEX. When you have to trade something to get sex from your girl realize that this is PROOF that you are not good enough in bed. It is proof that she does not like sex with you since in order to DO IT you have to give her something in exchange.

When you are sexually satisfying your girl you will not have to trade ANYTHING for sex but your girl will often sponateously text you sexy messages, buy YOU a small gift, or begin initiating sex constantly. Just wait and see!

Mistake #7) Not Giving Her Enough "Foreplay"

If you still think of "foreplay" as the activity before sex you need a quick mindset adjustment to change how much time you spend on foreplay.

Here's a hint: Women consider foreplay as PART of the sex. NOT as a separate thing!

Here's why:

While a man is not capable of having a foreplay orgasm AND another orgasm right away when he penetrates his girl, WOMEN CAN!

Imagine if you could have orgasms during foreplay AND never lose your erection even the slightest and keep having orgasms as you penetrated your girl. You'd want to spend A LOT of time in foreplay too, right?

Well your girl CAN have foreplay orgasms AND penetration orgasms so she DOES want to spend a lot of time in foreplay. As she should!

As a rule of thumb, spend at least the same amount of time on foreplay as penetration and you can always spend EVEN MORE time in foreplay. You can never get her too turned on and it will only make the penetration better when you are finally inside of her.

Mistake #8) Not Lasting Long Enough

This mistake is well known and very simple, but no list of mistakes in the bedroom would be complete without it.

But while all guys know they need to last long... they don't necessarily know HOW LONG that is!

Well, after talking to hundreds of women about the subject, I've discovered that if you can last at least 10 minutes, most women will be plenty happy with that.

Sure, they might be even happier if you are up for a "round 2" after a break in the action... but if you can last for 10 minutes in the first round, then trust me, you are fine!

Mistake #9) Mistaking Her Moody-ness For NORMAL Behavior

It's no secret that women are a LOT moodier than us men.

But if you're in a relationship with a woman and she seems to keep getting more and more moody over time... this is often because she isn't getting what she needs in the bedroom.

FACT.

As we talked about before... while women aren't usually as sexually aggressive as men, they do love and NEED sex just as much!

But here's the thing... if you're not giving her orgasms... then sex does her no good!

Can you imagine jerking off but you could NEVER orgasm? You'd begin to enjoy it less and less each time. Eventually you'd get so frustrated by the inabiliity to "finish" that it was just easier to avoid it COMPLETELY!

Sooo...

If you can't give her orgasms why WOULD she want to have sex with you?

The answer:

She won't.

If your girl is not wanting to have sex with you as much as you want then this is EXACTLY what has happened for her.

In the beggining, she may have tolerated sex because she was really into you. Now that you have been together for a long time and sex isn't satisfying for her it is more fulfilling to get herself off when you're not around. This leads to only having sex with you on special occasions... or when she feels obligated (like if a guy bought her a fancy dinner or some sort of gift.)

If you recognize any of these signs it's time to step up your sex game NOW before the sex drought gets even worse.

And when you do, you'll discover that when you are completely rocking her world in bed, not only is she in a better mood on a day-to-day basis... but SHE'LL start initiating sex with YOU!

A close friend of mine who is some what of a love-making expert himself told me something that I didnt' believe at the time... but I now KNOW to be 100% true:

IF YOU ARE GIVING HER THE BEST SEX OF HER LIFE SHE WON'T CARE IF YOU ARE HOMELESS LIVING IN A CARDBOARD BOX... AS LONG AS YOU CAN HAVE SEX IN IT!

When I heard this I thought he was totally full of it... but as my own lovemaking skills improved and then I heard about the success other guys were having, I realized this is completely true. Women are biologically "made" to be child bearers and select the highest value man to have a child with. Don't you think that the ability to give amazing sex is one of the highest values a man can have? Especially since so few men actually are REALLY GOOD.

If your girlfriend or wife is often starting arguments, not wanting sex, or acting "distant" in some way it is time to stop blaming her. Re-examine your sexual ability because the real culprit is inadequate sexual pleasure.

Mistake #10) Not Getting Help

Top performers in any aspect of life realize that MASTERY is a journey not a destination. Top athletes don't all-of-a-sudden stop practicing. Millionaire business men don't suddenly neglect their businesses and expect it to keep shuttling cash into their pockets. And guess what... sex is no different.

To be an amazing lover you can't ever be blinded by sexual arrogance. Never think that you know EVERYTHING. You may know A LOT but there are ALWAYS new tricks or tips to get you to the next level.

Chances are, everything you "know" about sex you just stumbled upon yourself or were told by your older brother. Think about it, have you ever really had good instruction?

So if you're serious about getting this part of your life together... If you want to say goodbye to stamina problems, if you want to have more sex, wilder sex, or if you want to have your girl sexually addicted to you, isn't it time you get serious about how good you are in bed?

There are a lot of great instructional products out there, but probably the most famous is "2 Girls Teach Sex." It features some of the biggest adult female pornstars in the world demonstrating (on eachother) how YOU can drive a woman wild.

In it, you'll discover DOZENS of secrets on how to get your girl turned on BEFORE you have sex, foreplay tricks that make her BEG to have you inside of her, the little-known positions that GUARANTEE orgasms, how to get your girl to start initiating sex with you, how to give her multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms... and much, much more!

source:

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